The Psychology of Strife: What Lies Beneath Our Conflicts?

Mar 7, 2024


Art Credit: Jano Tantongco, jano.tantongco@gmail.com


How does resolving inner conflicts enhance external relations?

Conflict, both inner and outer, is a fundamental part of the human experience. We engage in conflicts externally with others and internally within ourselves, reflecting the complex nature of human relationships and the psyche. Our external conflicts often mirror internal struggles, serving as manifestations of unresolved or unacknowledged inner turmoil. Recognizing the projection of our inner conflicts onto external situations can lead to deeper self-awareness and understanding. Delving into inner conflict necessitates introspection and the willingness to confront uncomfortable aspects of ourselves. This involves exploring our desires, fears, and contradictions to gain insight into our true motivations and feelings. Experiencing ambivalence—holding conflicting desires or feelings simultaneously—signals the presence of inner conflict. Acknowledging and exploring this ambivalence can be a path to understanding and resolving internal struggles. Projecting our inner conflicts onto others can obscure their true source, leading to misunderstandings and unnecessary external conflicts. Recognizing projection as a defense mechanism allows us to address the root causes of our struggles. Engaging with and working through inner conflicts can lead to significant personal growth and development. This process can enhance our relationships, increase our self-acceptance, and contribute to a more balanced and fulfilling life. Cultivating self-awareness is essential for effectively navigating both external disagreements and internal dilemmas. Understanding our own part in conflicts enables us to approach them with greater empathy and insight. By resolving our inner conflicts, we can improve our external relationships. A clearer understanding of our inner selves allows for more authentic and harmonious interactions with others.The process of understanding and resolving inner conflicts is ongoing. As we grow and change, new layers of the self-emerge, requiring continuous exploration and integration.

Prepare to discover…who explores inner and outer conflicts, including Carl Jung’s insights; when inner conflicts require deeper introspection across one’s life stages; how inner conflicts are projected externally and the importance of self-awareness; what differentiates inner from outer conflicts, focusing on personal struggles with ambivalence; where conflicts appear, in relationships and within, showing the interplay between internal and external worlds; whether conflicts are internal or external, underlining the need for introspection; which methods, like Jungian analysis, help resolve conflicts for growth and better relationships; why confronting inner conflict is key to a balanced life and transformative for self and relations…and so much more.

Here’s the Dream We Analyze:

“I’ve been invited to a party or reunion. I’m back in London, and I’m with my friend T. I’m happy to see him. There is the same feeling of wild elation in the air that I experienced when living in London in my 20s, a dangerous sensation of almost complete abandonment. We are drinking in a bar, and the next day, I wake up and find three tattoos of three phrases on the side of my calf on my right leg, but I can’t decipher what they say. Underneath is the tattoo parlor’s name. I am annoyed about the tattoos, but I think I’ll be able to get some compensation from the parlor because I must have been unconscious when I got them. I talked about this with T, who was with me. I can’t blame him because we were all drunk or high, and I think it’s not a big deal. It’s the next day, I’m with T, and he is cooking up an experiment. It’s exciting, but there’s a sense of danger. We are in an old room with flaking plaster on the walls and old pine benches on either side of the room with high wooden stools under them. On each of the benches is three or four piles of darkish sand – seven in total. The piles of sand are not big, but they are incubating something like eggs. One starts to move. I’m nervous. T says don’t worry and starts scraping away the sand, hurrying the hatching process. Inside it is a red-skinned man; he comes out. Now he’s life-size, and I see he has pointed ears. He is a devil, and I’m terrified – though T is excited, and the fact that he isn’t scared seems to protect him and me from risk. The devil is elated to be free. He exudes self-assurance and purpose and has an immense charisma. He goes around the other piles, helping the others out. The others are not as red as him; some are blotchy, and some have been asleep for eons. The one bench diagonally opposite, furthest from the main devil, is my father; he has slight red blotches like birthmarks and seems less dangerous and not as happy to be reawakening as the main devil, though they are of the same mold. It is like the awakening of vampires, and I am afraid.”


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1 Comment

  1. Felicia Stewart

    I accidentally stumbled upon this lovely little treasure today, just looking for something to do in my extra too past the time. Can’t wait to explore this website a little bit more see what I can learn from it and also see if maybe my story/dream will help someone else along their journey.


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