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How to Work with Denial: A Jungian Guide to Facing Reality

Dec 12, 2025

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Denial as an early psychological mechanism

Denial begins as a very early psychological mechanism that protects our fragile nervous system from experiences that exceed our capacity to process them. In infancy, we have a limited ability to symbolize or think about intense sensory and emotional input. The developing ego can register some aspects of what happens, yet much of the intensity remains unformulated, stored as raw affect, bodily state, or fragmented implicit memory rather than as something we can think about. Significant aspects of what we live through, therefore, do not become conscious experiences that we can remember, describe, or narrate. From a developmental perspective, denial and related primitive defenses help us keep enough contact with reality to function and stay attached to caregivers. At the same time, the most disturbing features of our situation remain outside conscious awareness. Anna Freud described the defenses as ways “by which the ego wards off unpleasure and anxiety” and maintains control over affects and impulses. Later in life, we see analogous patterns in crisis. In acute shock, we may perceive what is happening and act appropriately, yet only later form a fuller emotional and narrative sense of what we went through. Trauma research has shown that overwhelming events are often stored as fragmented sensory and somatic traces rather than coherent stories. In this sense, denial belongs to basic affect regulation and survival rather than to moral failure or deliberate lying; it is a primitive but understandable form of coping.

Denial, repression, and dissociation

Denial, repression, and dissociation reflect different ways we manage what we know and feel. In denial, we face a fact that is too uncomfortable to accept and we reject it, insisting it is not true despite the evidence. In repression, we once recognized a wish, thought, or event, and then it moved outside conscious awareness while retaining symbolic form. In dissociation, awareness divides into compartments with weak links between them. Memories, affects, perceptions, and self-states can function in semi-independent ways, with only partial mutual access. In clinical work, these distinctions matter. Repressed material often returns as thoughts, images, or narratives that feel displaced, intrusive, or out of character. What we deny discharges its intensity through behavior, bodily symptoms, and slips of language. Dissociation can be observed in sudden mood shifts, shifts in viewpoints, or changes in the sense of identity. Contemporary relational theorists emphasize that some defensive operations maintain experience in an “unformulated” state; it has not yet been shaped into symbolized meaning. When we track which of these mechanisms predominates, we get a sharper map of how a person has coped and where integration work can begin.

Denial, shadow, and the Jungian unconscious

From a Jungian perspective, denial plays a central role in the formation of shadow. Shadow comprises attitudes, affects, and impulses that do not fit our conscious self-image. Jung famously wrote that “the shadow personifies everything that the subject refuses to acknowledge about himself.” When we find certain feelings intolerable or incompatible with our values, we refuse to recognize them in ourselves. Denial supports that refusal over time. Envy, greed, dependency, or aggression may exist in us as real tendencies, yet we experience them as “not me” and locate them in other people. These disowned elements then live in shadow, often discharged through projection onto partners, colleagues, groups, or public figures. Complexes form around these autonomous patterns. When a complex becomes active, we feel driven by reactions that are not fully chosen or understood. In Jungian language, the ego is “seized” by the complex. Understood this way, denial helps organize both shadow and complexes. It decreases conscious conflict in the short run and increases the autonomy and intensity of disowned experiences and traits.

Denial in trauma and early attachment

In trauma and severe attachment disturbance, denial becomes a central survival resource. A child who lives with ongoing terror, humiliation, or emotional neglect faces levels of arousal and meaninglessness that cannot be regulated or symbolized. The mind adapts by limiting awareness of key features of the environment and of inner states tied to those features. The child may seem compliant, cheerful, or precociously competent, while layers of fear, rage, and longing are never fully formulated. Over time, this pattern becomes part of character. Many high-functioning adults with histories of early trauma describe a diffuse sense that “something happened,” along with very restricted emotional access to that history. Van der Kolk and others have shown that trauma is often “stored in somatic memory and expressed as changes in the biological stress response” rather than as ordinary autobiographical memory. These individuals report a strong preference for action, caretaking, or work over reflection on their own needs. For these people, denial works because clear recognition of harm would constellate unmanageable conflict between dependence on caregivers and awareness of danger or betrayal.

Denial and the body

When denial has operated for long periods, the body carries the remaining impact. Experiences that stay unformulated or disavowed still produce physiological changes: chronic muscular tension, distorted breathing, shifts in autonomic tone, and disturbed sleep. Without symbolic processing, these changes consolidate into bodily habits and symptoms. Traumatology and psychosomatic research have documented that overwhelming events are frequently encoded as somatic and sensory fragments rather than coherent narratives, and reactivated through triggers rather than conscious recall. People in this situation may seek medical care for recurrent pain, gastrointestinal problems, headaches, or fatigue that do not fit medical categories. They may describe feeling simultaneously wired and tired or emotionally flat with a body that feels perpetually aroused. Exploration of current stressors and past events often reveals striking gaps or vagueness around particular periods, losses, or abuses. These episodes receive minimal narrative elaboration and feel oddly remote. Denial limits mental contact with those experiences, yet the body continues to react. Psychodynamic and psychosomatic treatment then aim to connect bodily patterns with meaning, so the person can hold in mind what their body has been holding all by itself.

Denial in addiction and compulsive patterns

People struggling with substances, gambling, or other compulsive behaviors often develop narratives that minimize the frequency, impact, and risk of their actions. They reinterpret events to preserve an image of control. These stories are supported by self-serving bias, shame, fear of consequences, and work cultures that reward excess. In psychodynamic terms, denial is a refusal to accept reality to avoid anxiety, grief, or guilt, “blocking external events from awareness” as Anna Freud’s followers put it. Clinically, we find partial awareness. For example, individuals in active addiction can admit their illicit drug use is dangerous, yet day-to-day behavior continues as if that knowledge carries little weight in decision-making. Denial organizes this gap by splitting emotion and physical consequences. The person acknowledges a destructive outcome but will not let that deter them from their substance abuse. Recovery frameworks like twelve-step programs confront denial. Success in AA requires puncturing denial. It’s foundational. Personal inventories, public confession, and working with a sponsor keep negative consequences in view, so denial has less room to justify relapse.

Denial in character structure

Some personalities use denial as a core coping strategy. In borderline configurations, intense feelings and unstable self-image constantly threaten the cohesion of the ego. Primitive defenses like splitting, denial, and projective identification protect against the threat of psychological annihilation or engulfment by sequestering portions of memories. It makes certain facts unthinkable. Threats to attachment, internalized shame, or awareness of aggression remain outside conscious consideration until an inner storm breaks through. Then perception and memory shift rapidly, with alternating idealization and devaluation of self and others. In manic and hypomanic character structures, Nancy McWilliams and others highlight denial as the central defensive process. Mania often involves a denial of dependency, vulnerability, and depression. Elevated mood, grandiosity, and high energy coexist with limited access to personal history. Memories of collapse or realistic assessment of capacity are lost. The individual acts within an artificially expanded sense of possibility while relevant knowledge of risk remains inoperative. Across these styles, denial protects a fragile sense of self, but at considerable long-term cost. Therapeutic work focuses on building reflective capacity and relational safety so that contact with previously disavowed material can increase without overwhelming the person.

Denial in relationships and institutions

Denial operates at relational and institutional levels. In intimate relationships, partners may fail to acknowledge patterns that threaten the bond’s continuity. Cutting remarks, broken agreements, and subtle withdrawals accumulate, each one explained away as an isolated incident or as someone “having a bad day.” In families, shared denial can mask addiction, violence, or serious illness through unspoken rules about what is allowed to be noticed and what must be left unnamed. In organizations, group defenses against anxiety have been described by Isabel Menzies Lyth, who showed how hospital systems developed “social defenses” that protect staff from primitive anxieties, but at a cost of rigidity and impaired functioning. Chris Argyris later described “organizational defenses” that conceal mistakes to avoid embarrassment or a threat to status. This blocks learning. Leaders who respond defensively to criticism foster work climates where people feel frightened to name the problems they see. Group loyalty, fear of exclusion, and institutional habit then sustain denial at a systemic level. Just like an individual psyche, systems that are organized around denial cannot handle stress and are vulnerable to chronic crises. The solution is to create spaces where people can tell the truth about what they observe and feel. The group culture must explicitly value truth-telling, curiosity, and shared responsibility.

Denial, symbol, and dreams

The reactivation of symbolic capacity provides a way to approach the content that denial blocks away. Art, literature, film, and music can conjure emotional resonances that match our personal histories far more closely than we consciously recognize. We may find ourselves oddly moved or unsettled by a scene because it resonates with our own unformulated experience. It is clinically important to help the analysand think the unthinkable so they can shape language and symbols to hold their intolerable experiences accurately. In Jungian work, dreams provide a particularly direct access to disavowed material. Jung understood dreams as expressions of the unconscious Psyche that compensates and complements the conscious attitude. Dream images reintroduce conflict, loss, aggression, and desire in symbolic forms before the source memories can be fully recalled and tolerated. These dream symbols carefully bridge the waking personality and the unconscious troubling content. Symbol formation reconnects areas of experience that denial kept separate.

Working with denial in analysis and therapy

Clinical work with denial requires respect for its protective function and a steady commitment to reality. Denial originally served the analysand for many years and should not be stripped away without careful consideration of the likely consequences.  Defenses are normal, unconscious strategies for coping with anxiety and preserving self-esteem; they become problematic when rigid and overused. Harsh confrontation will intensify defenses or produce intellectual agreement without any emotional integration. A relational analytic stance tracks small indicators of denial like shifts in feeling when certain topics are surfaced, sudden changes in a storyline, discrepancies between what is described and what is enacted, or bodily reactions that do not match the explicit story. The analyst offers observations and interpretations in measured ways, in line with the analysand’s capacity to tolerate affect and complexity. Over time, the analytic relationship becomes a place where more truth can be spoken, felt, and reflected on without losing connection or dignity. Denial gradually loosens its hold. The person develops a more continuous sense of self and a greater ability to face painful realities while staying in relationship with others and with their own values.

Here’s The Dream We Analyze:

People often mistake denial for stubbornness, self-deception, or moral failure. Denial is actually a primal psychological defense that attempts to regulate which aspects of reality are permitted to reach awareness. Today, we explore how denial operates within Psyche, why it activates powerfully in response to traumatic experiences and addiction, and how it relates to shadow, repression, and dissociation. Denial is a pre-verbal way of titrating overwhelming experiences by making them unthinkable and unsymbolized. The problem is that they are then stored in the subtle body and give rise to a host of symptoms. Programs like AA explicitly confront the denial of consequences by repeatedly sharing painful consequences within the meeting structure. Some psychoanalysts believe denial is the organizing defense in mania and borderline personality disorder. Art, films, analytic metaphors, and dreams can offer representations of the lost experiences, so the unformulated experiences acquire image and language. Denial can be viewed as a benevolent survival strategy, and yet, like most defenses, must be set aside for us to make full contact with ourselves and the world.

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