The experience of betrayal is painful, confusing, and damaging to one’s basic sense of self and reality. The betrayer is often seized by feelings that demand gratification and involve self-deceit, abandonment of responsibility and empathy for the other. Are there ever times when betrayal is necessary for growth, either as the betrayed or the betrayer? Can betrayal be used as a call to deepened feeling, increased consciousness and more creative self-expression?
In this episode, we refer to Impossible Love: or Why the Heart Must Go Wrong by Jungian analyst Jan Bauer and The Art of Loving by Erich Fromm. Here’s a link to Nina Paley’s animated film Sita Sings the Blues.
Here’s the dream we discuss:
“I was in a house that belonged to my parents, but it wasn’t a house my parents have ever actually lived in. My boyfriend and I were fooling around in the bathtub. I was enjoying myself but he warned me that we were making a mess. I turned around and saw that we had somehow flooded the bathroom with several inches of water. I started to panic about how angry my parents were going to be. There was a radio on the floor that was an actual radio that my dad owned when I was a child. I was afraid to step out of the tub and into the water because I thought I’d be electrocuted. I was able to lean out and unplug the radio, and music that I hadn’t realized was playing stopped. I jumped out of the tub to grab a bucket to try to deal with the water, but by then most of it had drained away. I was trying to scoop up what was left and dump it down the drain. My boyfriend wasn’t helping and I was getting mad at him. He seemed to think it wasn’t any big deal because the water was almost gone. I told him that the water had obviously drained into other parts of the house, causing damage and that my parents were still going to be angry.”